As a Gestalt therapist working in Downtown Dartmouth I have many clients who are trying to change. Trying. Trying. Forever Trying. Trying doesn’t help much. The closer one gets trying? The further away they become. As a gestaltist one of the underlying principals I work with is the Paradoxical Theory of Change.
That’s a mouthful, I know! And, it’s not that difficult to understand. Here’s the short version of the article I linked to above:
change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what he is — to be fully invested in his current positions.
Simple eh? So, when we’re trying to be someone else or some other way in the world? We’re just getting further from ourselves. We’re Slip Sliding Away. This Paul Simon Classic was at number 30 on the charts on November 6, 1977.
There are other ways to deal with the Paradoxical Theory of Change. A little green creature whose story line began in 1977 was very wise. He said:
Do or do not do. There is no try.
With that in mind, I give you this which was also charting at number 15 that week:
Beginning your day with some ‘Galactic Funk’? That’s a great way to live #thespicylife
You are welcome.